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Get started with my simple formula for getting it done!

Watch here for my tips as shown with Rebecca Cressman on BYU TV Living Essentials

Learn and practice.  Know what IS working well for you and recognize and acknowledge what IS NOT. Stop blaming others. Take baby steps–one thing at a time and recognize when you make progress and reward yourself!  Remember—it is the progress—not the perfection!

Leave time open. Having a few minutes in between appointments and tasks is a GOOD thing. It will allow you to make up for the unexpected and to actually breathe a little!

Be respectful!  In other words—be ON TIME!  Lateness indicates not only poor time management skills, but a lack of respect for others.  If you find that you are chronically 10 minutes late for things—you are probably subconsciously planning that.   Make up your mind that you will be ON TIME from now on.  Commit to yourself and to others that you will do it.

Record your commitment in your planner and PLAN for it—Allow extra time to arrive on time!  Do not let yourself be trapped into the “one last thing” syndrome!  If you’re ready to leave and it’s a little early—LEAVE ANYWAY!  Use the time at the “other end” to finish the task, rather than taking the change of making yourself late and others wait!  Punctuality is a habit that can be developed with effort and repetition.

Communicate.  The greatest plan in the world will not be effective if it is not communicated to everyone involved!

Sharing your plan will help get others on board and let them help in the plan.  You cannot do it ALL by yourself!  No matter how hard you try!  No matter how smart, how fast, how good you are.  So, whether you communicate by using calendars, lists, notes, email—whatever—share the plan!

Plan.  We’ve all heard the adage that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.  That may seem a little simple and a little harsh, but I would say that in most cases, it holds true.

Of course, there are some things that we can “wing it” with.  But, for things we are serious about—things we really care for—our priorities, we must plan!  It may be as simple as planning a menu for the week or as involved as planning for retirement!

Focus.  Think about wanting to use your time well.  Think about what you may be doing too much of that is keeping you from doing what you really want.  Are you using the computer too much, are you visiting with friends too much, are you watching too much TV?  Although every one of these things can be a very good thing, we can let ourselves get carried away and not even realize that an hour or two have gone by!  Every time you say “yes” to one activity, you are saying no to another.

Be very careful with multi-tasking.  Although there may be some tasks you can overlap, such as doing dishes while you talk on the phone, there often is a negative pay-off for trying to do too many things at once.  How many times have you let something over-cook on the stove because you left the room just to “grab one thing?”  Or, how many conversations with a child have not really heard because you were really planning your next two hours or what was for dinner?  Learn what things work well for multi-tasking and what things do not.

Be patient.  This may seem like a strange term to use.  Sometimes patience is mistaken for sloth.  But, patient people are typically more effective time managers.  This is because they generally think things through before they act and focus more on the results than the constant movement!  Here are a few characteristics of patient people:

  • Patient people know they will accomplish their goals and that it won’t happy overnight.  They are realistic in their time planning and use time as a friend.
  • Patient people “roll with the punches” as inevitable delays arise.  They use their “idle” time by working on another task, such as setting the table while waiting bread is toasting, rather than peaking in the toaster every few seconds.  Or, they may read a book while waiting for an appointment rather than watching the clock.
  • Although patient people are able to use “waiting” or “idle” time well, they rarely perform two “high attention” activities at the same time.  They don’t apply makeup while driving or read the paper while eating with their families or read a book while listening to a speaker.
  • Patient people do not exude a sense of urgency—pushing elevator buttons over and over, interrupt others while they’re speaking, or tailgate!

  • Because patient people plan before they act, think before the talk and check things out before reporting, they make up for anything they may lose in speed with mental dexterity.

So, practice being patient!  Drive a little slower, pause before your answer, let the dryer run the full cycle!  Slow down.  Change your routines.  Take a break.  And, realize that a lost minute does not lead to a lost life!

Know what matters most to you.  What are your real priorities?  If we do not know what our priorities are, it is very hard to know if we are using our time towards them!  Just crossing items off a to-do list may show accomplishment, but are these items tasks that relate to caring for our priorities?  When we do not schedule time for our own priorities, we are not serious about our priorities!  Scheduling time to take care of what matters most to us is not selfishness.  It is effectiveness.  It is how we actually show that our choices REALLY are priorities for us.

Learn how to say “no” if it doesn’t meet with your priorities.  When you say “yes” to anything, you are saying “no” to something else—maybe something more important!

Sometimes, in order to find a motivation for change, we have to talk about the COST of staying where we are. Consider some of the costs you have incurred due to a lack of using your time well. Perhaps you are always late for appointments and meetings. Maybe you find yourself putting in long hours on a project because of procrastination. Or, maybe your relationships are suffering because of disagreement over how time is spent and when tasks should be completed. Whatever the cost, you must feel enough “pain” from it to have a desire for change.

And this desire for change–the craving to eliminate the “pain” –may be just the motivation you need to commit to doing things differently. One of my favorite quotes is:

There is no pain in growth. There is no pain in change. There is only pain in resistance to growth and change.

So, why do YOU want to manage yourself better within your time? Find YOUR reason–and make it a good one!